The Art Of Not Giving a Fuck What You Think

38Being an author of fiction in 2015 sucks. It sucks because the virus of social media has grossly warped the expectations people have of artists, of celebrities, of athletes, their peers, even themselves.

Along with the responsibility of 99% of the promotion of your books on your shoulders, you’re also expected to play your own publicist, keeping yourself from posting anything that could be construed as offensive or negative on social media. In other words, anything real.

We’re not even going to get into the social media sites themselves throttling down your exposure to the point that you’re only getting your fake nice, non-offensive posts out to ten percent of your audience without you throwing serious dollars at them.

What this creates, in essence, is an entire network full of 1950s Stepford wives towing strict political and social lines, effectively only reaching a tiny echo chamber audience who agrees completely with your carefully orchestrated bullshit.

This is not how art is supposed to be consumed.

Artists should not give a fuck what anyone thinks about them. If you think that the way I talk on social media is a detriment to my career as an author, then you’ve never read anything I’ve ever written. Where do you think this rage and contempt for politicized popular opinion goes? You think I write nicey nicey liberal stories about marginalized characters overcoming bigotry? Do you think you’re my audience?

There is a 99% chance the only reason we’re connected on social media is because we’re pressured into creating a “network” of creative people. NOT that you’re a fan of my fiction. My fiction is some of the most raw, harrowing, nihilistic shit you’ll ever read. My hatred for mainstream culture IS WHAT DRIVES ME TO WRITE IN THE FIRST PLACE.

If authors like Philip K. Dick wrote his tales of paranoia and government corruption today, what kind of posts do you think he’d make on social media? He’d be the guy you battled with for hours and hours in comments about the conspiracy theories and alien abduction links he posted online.

If Thomas Ligotti was new today, what kind of “friend” would he make on facebook? Always complaining about being depressed. Always ranting about the futile nature of life and reality. You’d unfriend him in a heartbeat because you “don’t need that kind of negativity in my life.”

Do you think H.P. Lovecraft would be calling for a rebel flag to be removed from South Carolina in the wake of its most recent tragedy? Fuck no. Hunter S. Thompson would troll political groups morning noon and night. Trent Reznor would post nothing but memes about ex girlfriends fucking over their boyfriends. Eminem would fight publicly with Kim, starting drama all over the internet every single day. Would you call him the most brilliant lyrical rap genius of all time? Or would you delete him for being an “internet drama queen”?

We must learn the art of not giving a FUCK what other people think of our “social media footprint”. These books will exist for hundreds of years after we’re all dead. After #rapeculture has absolutely no meaning. After fighting about transgender and transracial politics is indecipherable nonsense. You are NOT the fake shit you project onto the internet. You, as an artist, are THE WORDS AND IMAGES YOU CREATE. And you will FOREVER be remembered for them. Not what you posted about Bruce Jenner’s gender identity last week.

If you make your reading choices based on social media personality, I feel so sorry for you. You’re missing out on a vast, rich field of creativity that you marginalize with your high school lunch room politics. And I don’t give a single fuck what you think of me.  My fiction speaks for me.

Why I Don’t Want To Be Your Facebook Friend Anymore

kevinthestrangelogo4Girls rule, boys drool.

That’s the basic sentiment on the internet today. Specifically social media. And more specifically in the artistic circles I run in. And that’s fine. It’s an age old fight. The battle of the sexes and whatnot.

But me? I’ve always gotten along with women. I was raised by a single mother. Was always around my sisters and cousins who were female, have always had female friends. My best friends to this day are women. If given a choice, I would much rather spend my free time with a funny chick than a group of dudes.

So forgive me if I don’t give a single fuck about your fight.

Back in the Myspace days, the infancy of social media, if you will, I had over 30,000 followers hanging out with me, posting cool shit, sharing links to our art and music and generally just enjoying the sudden boom in communication with like-minded individuals.

And then the fucking sourpusses found the internet and ruined everything.

Fast forward to 2015 and everything is political. Everything is race baiting, pulpit pounding, nobody has a sense of humor. Everyone is outraged over this thing or that for half an hour before moving on to the next world ending, sky falling, nonsense matter THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE ABSOLUTELY SERIOUSLY! REPOST THIS LINK IF YOU CARE ABOUT LIFFFFEEEE!!!

You can’t pour water on your head without some asshole in California crying about his drought. You can’t sympathize with a community overwrought with police brutality without their race becoming the mitigating factor. You can’t be male and white without someone reminding you of patriarchy and privilege, as though you, of all races and genders, somehow had a choice in the matter, or that your -$7.50 bank account is somehow more privileged than someone with a different shade of skin. You can’t even play video games anymore without being dragged into a boy gamers vs girl gamers debate. 

All the fun of the internet has been sucked away by the same people we all came to the internet to avoid. When we came here, we did so to find like minded individuals with which to share our interests, passions and life experiences. And for a while it was AWESOME.

Now? As we creep ever closer to the 2016 presidential election, I fear all remaining fun on the internet will be lost forever. We already gave it up to the government without so much as a fight. The FCC, the same entity that fines beautiful women for exposing their anatomy during artistic performances now have control over what we see and do on the internet. And indie film mavericks like Lloyd Kaufman at Troma, one of the last bastions of offensive humor in art, is praising them for it!

The internet is truly lost, and I have been forced to take a defensive posture, for the sake of my own mental health.

It is the philosophy of all artists to keep their social media open and free for all to find them. Public pages, accept all friend requests, build a network as large and diverse as possible.

Sadly, those days are as long gone as auto-play music players on our Myspace pages.

I closed my facebook to the public several months ago after falling victim to the newest social media craze: public shaming. The act of dealing with any and every perceived offense by bullying said offender in public to as many people as possible to “get them” for hurting your feelings, picking the wrong political party, disagreeing with you about gun rights, having the balls to form their own opinion about religion, or any other innocuous disagreement that, if handled with common sense and a pinch of maturity, would remain private.

Not anymore! And so I’ve kept my page private and denied just about every friend request I’ve received. Why? Because I don’t give a fuck about your racist memes, your political affiliation, how you feel about gay rights, how much you hate Muslims, the 8,000 pictures of your children, or what you had for dinner last night.

I really, truly do not give a fuck about any of that.

I love monster movies, metal music, alt models, indie lit, and bullshitting with my friends. We’re men and women from all races, religions, and sexualities who don’t have to designate those things are our identity just to communicate with each other. We can bust balls and take jokes and not go into outrage mode every day over shit we won’t remember tomorrow. Those are the types of relationships I care to have on my social media. Because before a writer, before a film maker, I’m a person.

There are many ways to find me to keep up with my books and movies if you’re a fan. From Twitter, to my website, to my newsletter or podcast. We don’t have to be Facebook friends. Chances are, I’ll just unfollow you the first time you post racist shit, anyway.